Keeping your cool: Anger is a normal emotion for human being of all ages. In both children and teens, excessive anger turned inward can be the cause of serious depression.  Extreme anger or rage turned outward, can escalate into harmful behaviors such as aggressive harassment or violence.

Coping with anger: Allow angry feelings. Anger is natural in adults and children, but when these emotions are expressed excessively, effective parenting is important.

Determine acceptable limits: It is suggested that parents discuss and decide with their children how much expressed anger is tolerable.  Children and teens have a sense of security within their families when limitations are established.  Parents need to be consistent.

Encourage children and teens to talk about their feelings: Allow your children to express feelings without judging or rejecting them.  Help children learn by your example. 

Allow for a cool down time: Talk to your children about the incident AFTER they’ve had time to calm down.  A discussion at this point about how they reacted helps the child better understand their anger and to reach conclusions about how they were feeling.

*The information above came from an article written by Carol A. Korizek-Mckenzie in the ASCA School Counselor magazine.